I’ve been on some really muddy roads in some very
deep ruts. In those slippery, muddy
situations the ruts can be helpful. When your wheels are tracking in the rut,
they protect you from slipping into a ditch—just follow the rut, and eventually
you are led to a more drivable section of road.
However, by and large, I’m not a big rut fan. It seems all of us can fall prey to life
ruts. Some might call them routines, and
there is a similarity, but I imagine routines easier to break than escaping
from deep ruts. Life ruts aren’t
normally something we chose but something that just happened while we were
living life.
It might be the rut of a nice family tradition.
That special place the family rendezvous annually. Could be a holiday rut. Or maybe
one Sunday morning years ago one of the men in the family was up early and
decided to make pancakes for the family.
It was a hit, so a few weeks later it happened again, and then again. Before anyone realized it, there was this
pancakes-fixed-by-one-of-the-guys-on-Sunday rut. And over time when someone in the family
wants something else for Sunday breakfast, or to go out, there is resistance
because we find comfort in the rut. After all, it is “our” rut.
Whether we call them ruts or habits, routines or
traditions, we’ve all got them. Even the
most avant-garde family member has them, even if they are simply the arguments
against having them!
I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t have them, but I
am suggesting that we could be healthier, freer, and more engaged with people
in our communities if we would intentionally consider our ruts. Since so many of them just happen while we
are doing life, it is probable that some are really worth continuing, even
fostering, while we would do well to jump from the deep track of many of our not-so-helpful
ruts.
So I suggest that maybe you make list of your
routines, habits, traditions, or ruts.
Then, as you have them in front of you, ask yourself these seven questions:
1.
If this wasn’t a rut, would I choose to spend my
life this way?
2.
How does this rut make my life more difficult?
3.
And conversely, how does this rut make my life
easier, better, richer?
4.
Would I have trouble defending this rut to a
close friend or total stranger?
5.
Is this rut so important and valuable that I
would invite others to join my rut?
6.
What might be a better option than this rut?
7.
Thinking wisely with good counsel in line with
scripture, do I now consciously choose this “rut”—habit, routine, or tradition—as
a valuable rut for me?
Since so many of our ruts “just happened” from
living life, we have the freedom, the power, and maybe even the responsibility
to think about life’s ruts.
A verse comes to mind with which I’ve taken a
little liberty in the translation:
“There is rut that seems like the right rut but in
the end it leads to death.” Proverbs 14:12
Just seems like a word of advice to all of us
whose ruts may have become just a bit too comfortable.
Andy McDonald